How to Be More Confident!

Hey! So today, I'd like to show you how to be happier by being more confident. If these tips don't help, well, you should work harder. Haha, just kidding! Or... am I? But I mean, seriously, it takes time, and you need to be patient. It's not like you'll be perfectly confident tomorrow if you start today. Have faith in yourself. Because you totally worth it!

Ok, so first, you have to fake it till you make it. Think about it, nobody's 100% confident 24/7. Even celebrities. We're human; of course, we all have time when we doubt ourselves. "Maybe I'm not good enough." "Why can't I be like this?" "I wish I were..." It's completely normal to feel like this sometimes. Don't worry, it's not just you. Nobody's perfect. And there's no such thing as picture perfect. So you need to look confident even when you're not. Plus, people are attracted to people with confidence, right? Do you feel like having a person who appears to have no confidence whatsoever around? No. If you look confident, you will automatically attract people. See? So you have to stand straight, lift your chin up, and spread your bright smile, even if you're terrified inside.

Now, you also need to work on your core problem as well. Let's think about why you're so insecure. What is lacking? Would you be more confident if you have certain thing(s)? Will you be more confident if you were prettier, taller, smarter, richer, etc.??? Perhaps. But working on external factors are tiring and doesn't seem to end. Because there will always, ALWAYS be someone "better" than you. It's an endless fight. In addition, by the same token, the base you stand on created by working on external factors are tend to be fragile, and to be easily broken down. If you see one "better" person, your base will be nothing. Your external achievements are awesome. If you want to be smarter, put away your smartphone, and read books. If you want to earn more, work on the qualities required for better positions, and get that money. But remember, there will always be someone who is smarter than you, and someone who is richer than you. And even if you have worked so hard to have what you have now, you will quickly lose confidence in front of those effortlessly flawless people. What do we have to do then? I suggest working more on internal factors (i.e., your mind). Now, ask yourself again. Why are you not confident? Why are you so insecure? Ultimately, you're less confident because you compare yourself with others, not because you lack in something externally. If you stop comparing yourself, you'll never have to worry. So then, what do you have to do not to compare yourself with other people? The answer is simple: be original. Create your own category, and be the only member in the category. Then, you don't have to compare yourself with other people anymore. Do what you love, wear what you love, be with whom you love. And also, be nice to people. Showing love to others really helps especially when you can't figure out how to love yourself, and to feel good about yourself.

And lastly, you need to learn you cannot please everyone. Even if you're being the best version of yourself, somebody's going to oppose you, and hate you for the smallest reason. This makes it even more important to work on your mind, be original, and be stronger. You need to be you, do what you have got to, build your own category, and you won't have to worry about what other people think. If you can do this, then you will feel nothing when people try to bring you down. Your confidence won't be broken down. And this is the kind of confidence you would want to have.

As I wrote in the beginning, it takes time to come to this state of mind. But if you want to be happier, you need to be patient, and keep on working because this is a quality that can last for the rest of your life. Trust me, I'm working on this for myself, too! Let's seek peace of our minds together, and bring more people to find peace of their minds as well. Love! :)