Hi, so in this post, I'll talk about love and romantic relationship. There are different kinds of love, you know? Love towards your friends, love towards your family, love towards nature that surrounds you, etc. But I think the real basic thing underneath each love is the same, and that is the sense of attachment. You feel attached to the person or the thing, you care about him/her or it. That's the root of every love.
So. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for more than 2.5 years. For someone who has been in a relationship for like 6 years, this is really short; for someone who has just started a relationship, this may be amazing.
We met at a party, though I had already knew him for a little while. I really liked him for how he looked to be honest. We had never had a single conversation before the party, and all I knew about him then was how he looked. His mom is Japanese, and his dad is from the U.S., which made him look a little different from other Japanese. (Trust me, he is SO Japanese in his mind! lol) Our relationship started really quickly (or actually "too" quickly?). It started like a week (or less than a week? I don't remember to be honest... lol) from when we first met! We (or at least I) didn't really think too much about things like, "It things going on too fast?" "Will we be get along? We actually don't know each other that much..." Yes, maybe we should've thought through about these things because I know these are important and these matter. But so far, we've been in a great condition! Some of our friends must have thought we wouldn't last long, though.
Even though we experience disagreement, quarrels, etc., from time to time, we are a relationship goal most of the time. His camera roll is filled with selfies we took together or pictures of me, and I post a lot of couple selfie on Instagram and Facebook. We are very similar in some ways, but very different in other ways. And I learned so many things from those differences. I love him, I respect him a lot also, and I am so thankful for what he has taught me. Differences are awesome because they are a chance for both of us to learn and grow. It's not like one of us should give up to make the another stay happy.
One thing I find important in (any kind of) relationship is to make sure (constantly) that the 2 are on the same page. I know, you've already heard this, you already know it, and yes, this is not something new or special. But this is so important that people keep stressing this. Me and my boyfriend may be in a relationship, which means that we are very close to each other. But at the end of the day, we are very different. We are 2 different persons. We should talk about how we are feeling about our relationship lately, how we are feeling about each other, whether it is ok or not to do certain things, etc. It's actually very easy to assume that what you think is what your partner thinks. Or there many be a thing that you do with your partner frequently that you don't feel like doing every time honestly, but you still keep doing it because you "think" your partner loves it. But your partner may be feeling or thinking in the same way. "It's not that I don't like this. It's just I don't want to do this every time we see each other. Sometimes is just enough. But I should probably keep doing this, right? Because my partner loves it; he/she does this every time we meet." See? If you talk about this with your partner, and say, "Hey, so about this thing we always do... It's not like I don't like it, but I think we don't have to do this every time we hang out," the problem will be solved so easily.
But I know, it's quick and easy to be lazy about this. We're busy and tired, and we don't really have time to sit and discuss. But if you really care about your partner, and if your relationship really matters, you had better make a commitment, and make time for the maintenance. It's easier to fix things when the defect is small. If you want to grow a beautiful flower, you should take care of it everyday. It needs a certain amount of water and time. Yes, ultimately, a flower grows by itself; you cannot control it's cells and stuff. But it can't do so without a good soil and water. And it's not like you gave tons of water today, so it will be flourish tomorrow, or you have tons of water today, so you don't have to do anything from now on. You need a little bit of time everyday, and the action of watering the plants itself is not a lot of work at all. Nourish love like a flower. Take time for love, and give it what it needs. Then love will grow beautifully by itself.
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